I've known this fact for a long time. It took even longer to recognize it in me and longer still to begin to set those boundaries. Honestly its only been in the last two months I've begun to protect my boundaries.
I cannot do what I cannot do. I was in a group of people recently, playing a trivia game. We broke up into two teams. The captain of one team said: "Sharon's on my team, she knows everything!" WHAT!???? Who told you that? As it turned out, I only knew one answer and yelled it out at the wrong time.
I do know a lot about a lot of topics, BUT, I do not know much about many things. I like to say it like this: The more I know, the more I know I don't know. This incident also pointed out to me how I come off in the world to many people.
The TRUTH is, I do not know everything, far from it. Another truth is, even if I know certain things, I can't always help another person with that knowledge. AND, it is up to me to say so. This is where my problem has come in.
As I look back over my life, I can see; some people I've bent over backward for, are still in the same sorry condition they were in in the beginning of our relationship. I can also see, I've tried to help people who never asked for my help.
First order of business in freeing myself: MIND MY OWN BUSINESS!! Darn it. Now knowing this points out another truth, if I have a problem, it's always me.
Fantasizing the freedom in simply minding my own business.