Of course I'm not always successful in maintaining my boundaries. None of us has it together all the time.. The important thing is to keep moving forward. It is particularly hard when it comes to my family.
Trying to staying in my lane, I find myself swerving over the double yellow line. When they are hurting or going through something hard, I have to remind myself, this is their path in life, not mine.
It is almost impossible with my husband, wanting to fix everything, take his pain away; I cannot. I recently realized, I was likely making it worse in my efforts to help. What I mean is; how it affected me. I was stressed, guilty (of what??), I was sad, in a negative space. This state of mind is no good to anyone.
I have made many mistakes, hurt many people. One thing I am proud of is the ability to listen to their perspective of me; how I've affected their lives in a negative way. It is so true; the truth hurts, but it only stings a minute if you take it to heart, consider what others are telling you. Acknowledging my wrongs, asking forgiveness is freedom.
I really do, take a look in the mirror and ask myself; are they right? I guess if it's how they feel, it is true in their existance.
The setting free part is in the acceptance of what I've learned and the changing. Changing is a full time job and it takes time. If one never lets themselves hear the truth, take the time and puts in the effort to change, they stay forever in their bondage.
Fantasizing the freedom to hear the truth and work on change.