You see, I had a patient recently who is manipulative and needy. She has developed, what she sees as love for me. It feels like stalking. Yesterday I saw her in the dining room. I was with someone else. There were also several little ladies that I am quite fond of. This woman was sitting close by.
As I gave one a hug and then another, this woman was grabbing me by the arm so hard, I had to pry her fingers off me. Then she grabbed my belt from behind. Crying "You love her more than me." I wanted to say YES I do. These ladies are gracious and loving and sweet. You, my dear, are needy and manipulative and do not love me. You want to posses my attention. AHHHH!
It got me thinking about what love is. The scripture 1 Corinthians 13:4-8 puts it perfectly. The problem becomes when you show love to someone who misconstrues it. It can fall into a sick situation. Most people prone to this attitude have no awareness of how they affect others. It's all about them, all the time.
In my job, kindness and compassion are usually assets. I feel like it is also wise to keep a distance until you get to know someone well. That said, no matter what I do to distance myself, even as I was working with her, she has it in her head that my attention belongs to her and has fits at the door to the gym and grabs me in the hall.
As I write this, I realize that to blame the victim of this kind of abuse is wrong. I cannot give in to her manipulations and pull back. I believe love is at the root of all healing, whether it be emotional, mental or physical. I will continue to shed love abroad and let the chips fall where they may.
Fantasizing the freedom to share my love freely without fear.