The problem isn't money, or geography or your parents. If you have a problem, it's 100% you. Fix it, or quit bitchin' about it.
I work in a skilled nursing facility. Commonly known as a nursing home. There are residents and patients there of all ages. I think the youngest is in his 20's from a motorcycle crash and the oldest just turned 101. A common thread is, lack of care for their lives. I realize this is a blanket statement, of course there are exceptions, but by and large these individuals made choices that sequestered them and cut short their independence.
We get one life, one body. . .if we don't take the time to care for ourselves, nobody else can. Only you know what you put in your mouth, up your nose, in your arm. Only you can control the danger you put yourself in, the chances you take, thinking "nothings going to happen to me".
Recently a man came in due to a fall. He was caring for his demented wife and not taking care of himself. In a hasty moment, he fell. His goal was to get home to his wife and take up where he left off. It is quite doubtful at this point, he'll realize this goal.
When he was taken from his home, relatives took over and he has lost control of the situation. As each day goes by, the chances of being released to home become slimmer and slimmer. The statistics show, only 18% of those entering a nursing home, ever leave.
Exercise, eat right, quit smoking (or whatever your "vice" may be). Take care with where you go and where you're stepping. Use your turn signal, wear a helmet. Life catches up with us when we least expect it.
Follow your dreams. What do you have to lose? Keep growing and learning, enrich your mind. Love with abandon, dream big, make big moves in the game of life. I can't say I am a raving success at any of this. What I can say is; I get up everyday looking to learn something new, strengthen my body, help someone else and laugh.
I'm not where I dream I'll one day be, but THANK GOD! I'm not were I used to be. I'm not even the same person I was a year ago. Today I'm happy when I look in the mirror, on so many levels. Each night I go to bed knowing I did my best and let God do the rest.
What's your dream? Take one step today toward that dream. The days are passing anyway, take a chance. If you do, one day down the road you can look back from where you came and be amazed where the journey took you, is taking you.
One day, not too long ago, a resident asked me how I was. I looked at him with a big smile and declared "I'm fabulous!", as I continued down the hall I heard him say' "Yes you are!"
Fantasizing the freedom to be fabulous at any age, independent throughout my life, dream big and never stop growing.