Loving your neighbor as yourself can be a tricky thing. When you consider the phrase "as yourself". There is a definite pre-requisite to this command. If you do not love yourself, then what?
It puts a whole new light on the issue of bullying. The fact is when someone hates us, it's really themselves they are hating. The way someone treats you is more a reflection on them than it is on you. It's too bad we don't inherently know this.
I think, even when you know it, it's hard to separate how someone treats you from who you really are. It is a vicious cycle. I feel bad about myself, I treat you badly, you then feel bad about yourself and so on and so on...
I know, for me, it took an extreme set of circumstances for my spirit to rise up and scream; "I AM NOT WHAT YOU SAY I AM!!" Maybe if my life hadn't gone down the extreme path it did, as far as so many people having an opinion and feeling free to share it with me, I would have limped along through life. As it stands, what others were saying to me about me was so outrageous, I had to see the truth.
What is so sad about the entire situation is how horribly I treated myself during the time I believed them. Be careful little ears what you hear. It is hard to let go of ugly words directed at you. It's really hard when part of you believes them.
Be diligent in knowing who you are and who God says you are. Do not allow other people the power to tear you down. Caring for yourself is ultimately in your hands. So pray for eyes to see yourself as God sees you and then act accordingly. So will I.