What I didn't say is; I serve others daily. It is my work, serving others. I serve the old and infirm to become stronger and more self sufficient. I serve at home. My life is service.
To save my sanity, I have had to learn; I cannot help everyone in every area of my life. Part of my service is to know when I can and cannot help.
Balance is hard to achieve. It is a work in progress. I have been one to jump in with both feet, before thinking about the consequences. These days, I try to think before jumping. Don't judge me by what I am not doing, judge me by what I do consistently.
What we can all do is; respect others always, respect ourselves enough to know what we can and cannot handle. Help where we can and know when to step back.
If I am to have a good attitude, love and serve, I have to choose. No one can do it all. I remember as a young woman in the 80's, the mantra among the women's lib movement was: "You can have it all.". What they were really saying is; you can DO it all. That is a lie of the highest order.
Nobody can do it all. When one tries to do it all, what happens is they do none of it well. Also, to believe you can, will be the death of you.
Fantasizing the freedom to choose when and where I will serve.