One minute everything feels fine. Everything is in order. THEN, in a moment, life can change forever. This weekend, I attended a funeral, also, learned a dear member of my family is in a medical crisis, in the hospital.
Some changes feel as if we are in control of them; finding a new job, painting a room. . . The truth is, we have very little control over anything except our attitudes. Keeping a good attitude in the midst of drastic or tragic change is a very, very difficult thing to do.
It's even more difficult when others, well meaning, say something hurtful. It is better to just hold a hand and sit with a grieving soul if you don't know what to say. Sometimes there are just no words, at all, that will make it better. "People won't always remember what you say, they will remember how you made them feel." Maya Angelou.
Like my grand daughter, Arianna, so eloquently told me once; "Nana, zip it lock it and stick it in your pocket."
If you are feeling empathy for someone, they will know it. When someone is in the midst of the storm, they usually don't care to hear platitudes urging them to look at it in a positive light. That can come down the road, when the traffic clears and you can turn the corner.
Fantasizing the freedom to be sensitive to others feelings.