Change is inevitable, everything is subject to change. When you are feeling overwhelmed with the changes you dread, it is time to throw your hands up, give it to God. Forget it and drive on.
It has taken me many years to see the truth in it. Many, fruitless, sleepless nights. The only thing served was a nervous stomach and an aching head.
I write two way prayers, meaning a Dear God from me and a dear Sharon from Him. I was feeling out of control one day and expressed my frustration and fear. As I was penning His answer, at the end He said; "Trust me, fear not, AND don't try to figure it out." WHAT?
I did figure out, a long time ago, when God says trust me, what he really means is learn to wait and see.
One particular time of trial involved being publicly dragged through the mud, attacked at every turn from a group of unethical, sneaky, people. It went on for months until finally both my husband and I were out of work. We sold the big house, most of our "toys", new car and moved into a nasty rental. As we pursued work, we both decided, his high paying management position wasn't worth what he had to sacrifice. (I was merely his secretary.)
We both found jobs, built a house we could live in stress free and spent more time with our children. Today we are happy and in a good place. It took ten years before satisfaction came. Our persecutors were brought to justice and we didn't have to lift a finger to make it happen. They brought it all on themselves.
So, when you face changes you are not happy about, ask for help, then let it go. You will see the miracle unfold in time. Fantasizing freedom from fear of the future.