Without sorrow there can be no joy. "For tears last may for the night, but joy comes in the morning." Psalm 30:5
I heard a story about a young woman, complaining to her grandmother about all the woes in her life. As she spoke, the grandmother put three pots of water on the stove. When they began to boil, she placed eggs in one, carrots in another and coffee in the third. After a time, she removed the pots, placed the eggs and carrots in bowls and poured the coffee in a cup. She said to her granddaughter; trials in life are like the boiling water. Either it makes you hard as the egg, soft like the carrots, or sweet and fragrant as the coffee. It is your choice which one it will be.
It is a beautiful thing to come out of a terrible time, better than you were before. More compassionate and grateful. It is a most terrible thing, to come out of it jaded and bitter. We all experience pain in our lives. Some of us a lot, some a little. It is said: Corinthians 10:13 (paraphrased) "God will not give us more than we can handle."
Sometimes we will experience things we believe will kill us. With faith, those same experiences can make us into better human beings. For this to be so, we must face those things dead on, ask ourselves and God; what is it I need to learn from this experience? Sometimes He answers and sometimes we must wait and see.
I do not believe in coincidence or happenstance. I do believe everything happens for a reason. I can't say I always know what the reason is, all I know is I can trust that God knows. "For I know the plans He has for me, plans for good and not evil, plans to prosper me and not harm me." Jeremiah 29:11
Fantasizing the freedom to go through the fire and not get burned.