You see, she is a patient in the rehab I work for. She has chronic pain. Due to the pain and the meds, the surgeries, etc. . . she has lost some teeth, her body is maimed by surgery and she feels ugly and useless.
As a therapist, it is my job to help her gain strength and relieve as much of the pain as possible. In my mind, this includes, at the top of my list, to help her understand; beauty is not in your physicality as much as it is in your spirit.
It's a shame when the world we live in is so focused on youth and physical perfection to the exclusion of being a sweet spirit.
As I was talking to her, I remembered another woman from my life, many years ago. When I met her my first day on the job, my first thought was; YIKES, this woman has been beat with the ugly stick!
Within a month, I realized she was one of the most beautiful people I'd ever met. I couldn't believe I ever thought she was anything but that. Her lovely spirit totally over rode any semblance of ugliness. She was and likely is, a true beauty. On the flip side, I've met many natural beauties who turned ugly before my eyes when they opened their mouths.
Yesterday, I was put to the test when I saw pictures from my granddaughters' birthday party. YIKES, I felt like I'd been hit with the ugly stick. Then, my own words and beliefs hit my square in my face (literally). I too must remember I am not by face or my body, I am ME and so, you are you. You are not your face or body, you are your essence.
Fantasizing the freedom to feel beautiful, no matter what.